• Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    It’s Terminal

    Do you mean it when you say the relationship is over???? So, I’m waiting for my take-out order at a local restaurant and out of the blue, I hear… HER: (Loudly) “What the %$#@? I’m so $%% tired of your &^%$! I’m done!” (SILENCE THAT WENT ON FOREVER) HIM: (Quietly) “What do you mean ‘done’?” I glanced over and recognized that he was having one of those moments. You know those moments. The ones where you feel that sickness in your stomach? That knot in your throat? Honestly, I was having one of those moments, and I didn’t even know him. I moved away from their table quickly because this conversation…

  • Date Night

    Introvert-Friendly Date Nights (At Home & Out)

    Boy, I have come up with some GREAT ideas for having fun. I have some Introvert-Friendly Date Nights for you. Bobby and I get it. We are you. These can be dates or fun with friends…but what they ARE NOT…are boring. Yay! Whether you want to stay close to home or venture out, these are creative ways to shake off the blahs and make memories—without the pressure of crowds or small talk. I would love to hear your ideas in the comments, too. Let’s get started! First things first: how do introverts meet new people without draining their batteries? Slow dating is your friend. Start with messages, move to a…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Gaze an Eagle Blind: How a Look Can Work on Your Relationship

    My husband does this thing. And he may not realize it, but he’s working on the relationship. He stops everything he’s doing, pulls me close…and just looks into my eyes. He doesn’t say anything…he just looks at me with this fervent – even reverent – look. Nothing else in this world makes me feel more loved than that look.   The link between love and looking has long been the stuff of song. Can’t take my eyes off of you… I only have eyes for you… My eyes adored you. And Shakespeare himself wrote of the power of a loving look in his play, Love’s Labour’s Lost. He said that…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    What Story Will You Tell?

    My husband Bobby recently reconnected with his childhood friend Kevin on social media. He read me a post written by Kevin about how he’s managing quarantine. Bobby knew I would be intrigued by it because I’m endlessly interested in relationships and how we navigate our way through them. That’s a fancy way perhaps of saying that I’m nosy about people’s personal business. In my defense, I do share some pretty personal business of my own in this blog so you get equal opportunity. I’ve been thinking a lot about this extraordinary situation we’re in and how we’ll tell the stories of it to our kids and their kids. We are…