• Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Dancing Through Life: Love, Theology, and Togetherness

    Most people know my husband as a Champion Race Car Driver. But he has also served as a Corporate Chaplain. To serve his colleagues better, he took a course, Introduction to Theology, at Trinity Divinity School. We were both very excited about it. He texted me the day he started reading his textbook. He said “My mind is bending. I’ve read 16 words so far that I never heard before.”  Then on his first day of class, he texted “Everyone should study Theology!”  The day he took his mid-term exam, I knew I would hear about his grade on his first break. I did.  Here’s the message:   When he…

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    A Season of Giving Grace to Others

    An acquaintance of ours started a non-profit movement offering free yard signs reminding us to love one another. He posted it on our county’s social media page…and the war began. Within a short time, I counted 102 comments. Ninety-eight of the remarks were fighting with him or with each other.  Ironic? Yes. Surprising? Big sigh. No. As I read these ugly comments on social media, I was insulted on behalf of this good man. Why the anger? Why aren’t we extending grace to others?  At the same time, his responses – both measured and kind – filled me with hope instead of feeling overwhelmed by the inhumanity of the masses. I…

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    This Is a Football: Why the Fundamentals Matter in Marriage

    Back to Basics: What Football Taught Me About Love In July of 1961, the Green Bay Packers showed up for the first day of training camp. The previous season had ended in heartbreak—they blew a late lead and lost the NFL Championship to the Philadelphia Eagles. The off-season was brutal, and the players were eager to learn new strategies, new plays, new ways to win. Their coach, Vince Lombardi, had other plans. He walked into camp holding a football and said, “Gentlemen, this is a football. That’s it. No fancy speech. No secret playbook. Just a ball in his hand and a reminder that greatness starts with the basics. These…