• Dating & Finding Love

    What to Know Before Choosing a Spouse

     The below is a letter I wrote to my eight nieces and nephews about what to know before choosing a spouse. I still pray for each one of them every day. I think I always will. Wanna eavesdrop on my conversation? I’ll also be praying that you or someone you love will be blessed by this letter, and you’ll learn about choosing a spouse. I’ll also share at the bottom something I wrote about where to look to find the right partner. I hope it helps you, too. Important decisions are on the horizon I have been thinking a lot about each of you, how much I love you, and…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    It’s an Emergency: Why Nagging is Causing Destruction in Your Relationship

     I work for a Facilities Management Company.  Very large corporations, hospitals and universities trust us to manage everything related to their buildings. When a leak is reported, we treat it as an emergency no matter the intensity. We know that even the slow, steady drip of a tiny leak can cause destruction. Nagging acts just like a leak in relationships.   Its constant and persistent drip slowly and steadily destroys intimacy. And, for all that it costs, it doesn’t yield much. You may get what you want in the short term because you asked for it long enough and loud enough. But in the end, you can’t force through lasting…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    I Don’t Speak Spanish: How To Speak Love in the Way They Hear It

    I spent much of my time walking the hallways of Big Beaver Falls High School trying to avoid my teacher, Mr. Evans.  “Senor” Evans was a perfectly nice man.  But, he was my Spanish teacher, and anytime he would see one of his students in the hallway, he would try to talk to us in Spanish.  And well, the only thing I knew how to say in Spanish was “No hablo Espanol.” (I don’t speak Spanish.)Have you ever had that same feeling in your relationships? I read a great book by Gary Chapman called “The Five Love Languages.”   Dr. Chapman teaches that every person has a love language. And if…