• Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    What Story Will You Tell?

    My husband Bobby recently reconnected with his childhood friend Kevin on social media. He read me a post written by Kevin about how he’s managing quarantine. Bobby knew I would be intrigued by it because I’m endlessly interested in relationships and how we navigate our way through them. That’s a fancy way perhaps of saying that I’m nosy about people’s personal business. In my defense, I do share some pretty personal business of my own in this blog so you get equal opportunity. I’ve been thinking a lot about this extraordinary situation we’re in and how we’ll tell the stories of it to our kids and their kids. We are…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Keep Up

    It’s inevitable that your partner will change. It’s OK.  Keep up. But how? How can you stay close to your spouse throughout the years? The first time I ever laid eyes on my husband was at a club. He DJ’d there, and I was bowled over by him. He had just moved to my hometown three months earlier and his full time job was as Music Director and On Air Personality at our local radio station.  He had graduated from Syracuse University with a degree in Television and Radio, and had worked at a few radio stations in New York. The radio station here was a move up for him…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Dear Younger Me

    Today, Bobby and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. According to statistics, we have entered a unique, exclusive club: one for couples whose marriages have not only lasted longer than most, but have become even stronger as the years went by. Through every single year of our marriage, people have commented on our strong physical connection and affection toward one another. In the earlier years of our marriage, after people would tell us to get a room (yep, that’s where the blog name comes from), they inevitably would follow it up with “Well, just wait until you’ve been married  ___  years.” Wow…thanks for the insight.  It was truly disconcerting to hear this over…

  • Date Night

    No Prep Date Night Ideas

    So. Date nights are really fun. And they really help relationships stay close. I love them. Buuuut. Are you tired sometimes? Yes, I am! Too busy to plan a date out? Yes! That’s me. Do you sometimes want to chill? Can I squeeze another yes in here? All the yeses! And, sometimes, you may not have the extra money. Or, what about if you have young kids? That makes it really hard. There is an easier way to have all the fun but avoid the other stuff. I have date night ideas for you! OK, I’m going to take a side trip. Bear with me. If you don’t know, my…