• Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Healing Rain On Barren Land – My Story of Infertility

    The life I pictured (and the timeline I assumed would cooperate) I always dreamed of being married and having children. Not in a vague “someday, maybe” way. I mean the whole picture—the husband, the home, the little feet running down the hallway, the kind of chaos people complain about while secretly loving it. Bobby had the same dream. And once we got married, we didn’t jump right into starting a family. We waited. Our plan was to build our careers first. Also, we had this other thing going on that tends to consume every spare minute, emotion, and paycheck like it’s a living creature… Racing. Racing is an all-consuming passion.…

  • Dating & Finding Love

    Who Are You Listening To?

    Who are you listening to? Your answer could perhaps be the difference in finding and keeping a wonderful, fulfilling love relationship or not. In fact, it could make a difference in how your whole life works out. I recently read the results of a study conducted by Pew Research in January 2025 called “Men, Women and Social Connections.” It explores the loneliness of men and women, and what they each do when they need emotional support. The study found that there are notable differences between men and women in terms of social connection and emotional support. While both genders report similar levels of loneliness, women are more proactive in seeking…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    This Kitchen Is for Dancing

    My sister-in-law bought me a kitchen towel that says, “This Kitchen Is for Dancing.” Hmmm, she knows what happens in the Martin Kitchen on Thanksgiving. And every other day. Ha! See, my husband Bobby and I have a morning routine. I make the eggs. He makes the coffee. I make his lunch. He makes the toast. But somewhere in the middle of all of that? We dance! Sometimes, he plays music through the Bose. Sometimes, I play it through my vocal cords. One of our favorite songs to dance to is “Good Day” by Forrest Frank.” Am I weird? I always have a new favorite song in my head. Or…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    How To Write a Love Letter

    My husband Bobby has offered numerous gestures of love over our 30+ years of marriage. But there has never been anything that meant more to me than his love letters. Is there a gift that could offer more than a love letter? Think about it. A letter from a loved one is from the one you love. It’s unique to you, and your relationship, deeply personal, and the effort alone shows how much they care. Because I know what a Big Deal this is, I’m going to share how to write a love letter. First, confession time. I have never written a love letter. But, I have perfect examples from Bobby…