• Dating & Finding Love,  Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    The Day I Learned Faithfulness Isn’t a Pinterest Word

    The day I learned “faithfulness” isn’t a Pinterest word Some dates land in your life like a dropped plate—loud, sudden, and impossible to ignore. October 27, 2018 was one of those days. I remember reading the headlines about the Tree of Life Synagogue massacre in Pittsburgh and feeling that specific kind of sick that isn’t exactly nausea—it’s grief mixed with disbelief mixed with how is this still real life? Eleven people murdered in a place where people went to pray. A man walking in with weapons and hate, shouting things no human being should ever have in their mouth. And then I read that he was transported—critically injured—to Allegheny General…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Freezing at Five

    My husband and I were recently invited to a friend’s house for a picnic and decided to go at the last minute. I hadn’t thought about what food I was going to take, and I’m not known for keeping it simple. I decided on a dessert that needed ice cream. Sounds fine until I tell you that our friends live 30 miles away, and it was a 98-degree day. Not the best choice? True that. Bobby drove our Challenger SRT, his pride and joy. I asked him to stop at a grocery store closer to our destination for the ice cream. Bobby assured me that he could make Hulkster “a…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    The Unforced Rhythms of Grace

    If you’re following along, you might know about Sacred Saturdays.  They evolved from my husband’s and my need to hold time aside just for us. The time that has worked best is Saturday mornings. The name came later as we realized just what this time means to us and what it has contributed to our relationship. “Sacred” in the name does not mean that we do something specifically related to God every time, although we sometimes do. It means that this time is a priority and it’s special. I explain how it came about and what we do on these mornings in the original story. We’ve been doing Sacred Saturdays…

  • Marriage & Keeping Intimacy

    Dancing Through Life: Love, Theology, and Togetherness

    Most people know my husband as a Champion Race Car Driver. But he has also served as a Corporate Chaplain. To serve his colleagues better, he took a course, Introduction to Theology, at Trinity Divinity School. We were both very excited about it. He texted me the day he started reading his textbook. He said “My mind is bending. I’ve read 16 words so far that I never heard before.”  Then on his first day of class, he texted “Everyone should study Theology!”  The day he took his mid-term exam, I knew I would hear about his grade on his first break. I did.  Here’s the message:   When he…